Publication date October 30, 2023
Powerful Relationship Advice for Women: Everything You Need to Know For a Healthy Relationship
Everyone always says, “Relationships are so hard!” But that’s not true. It’s not relationships that are difficult, rather, it’s the people involved in the relationships that MAKE them challenging.
In other words, you can make your relationship better by doing two things: (1) requiring more of yourself, and (2) requiring more from your partner.
You see, a lot of people are lazy. They think that relationships should just magically run like a well-oiled machine. But that doesn’t happen in real life.
Relationships take effort, and they can be healthy and happy if you know what to do. So, here is some advice you can use every day to make that happen.
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Powerful Relationship Advice for a Healthy Relationship
No one has a magic wand to hand you that will turn your relationship into a fairy tale. But if you follow these tips, you will be pleasantly surprised on how happy you become.
Don’t be needy
Being needy and chasing can go hand-in-hand. If you want to see him 24/7, text him 24/7, and basically think the world resolves around him, well, you’re being needy. Needy behavior is suffocating for people, especially men. You think these behaviors will help you hold on to him, but it actually has the opposite effect – it pushes him away.
Have your own life too
You might be crazy in love with each other, but that doesn’t mean the rest of your life should stop. Don’t abandon your friends for him. Don’t take up golf and give up your massages if you don’t want to. Have some independence and an identity of your own. Because if you don’t, things will get boring and routine in the relationship.
Make sure you connect physically, emotionally, and mentally
Easier said than done, but these three things are crucially important. If you’re just physically connected, but you don’t connect emotionally or mentally, then you won’t make it for the long haul. Or maybe you connect mentally, but your intimacy is just “meh.” The relationship may be doomed. You have to have strong bonds in all areas of your relationship, so make sure you keep an eye on that from the very beginning.
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So many women complain that they either than can’t find the right partner, or they always attract jerks who don’t treat them right. Well, it’s probably because you don’t love yourself enough. You can only attract the level of love that you feel for yourself. So, look at all your good qualities and decide to love yourself exactly the way you are right now.
Take care of yourself
If you love yourself, then you will automatically take care of yourself. This means trying to stay healthy, get enough sleep, go get massages, escape to a bubble bath, or maybe a girls’ night out. You need to feed your soul in other ways outside of your relationship or else you won’t have anything left to give.
Don’t be a people pleaser
Many women mistakenly believe that if they please other people, then they will automatically love them. This couldn’t be farther from the truth! A lot of people will take advantage of you if you give too much of yourself. Instead, strive for a healthy balance of being self-less and selfish. Please your partner, but also make sure they please you too. Relationships are a two-way street.
Speak your mind
When I say “speak your mind,” I mean doing it gently and calmly. Don’t suppress your negative (or positive) emotions. Let them out. Talk to your partner about any problems you are having. Try to see yourself as a team and solve the problems together. You deserve respect and to have your voice heard.
Don’t avoid problems
No one really likes conflict. Well, maybe there are some people who do, but generally speaking, most people don’t. So, what happens a lot of the time is they go into avoidance mode. This does not work. If you avoid problems for years upon years, well, they are going to pile up. And then one day you’ll wake up 25 years later and never be able to sort through them all because they’ve been accumulating too long.
When I say “demand,” I don’t mean stomping your foot down and demanding in in a diva kind of way. What I mean is that you need to believe that you deserve to be treated with respect at all times – everyone does. But here’s the kicker – in order to get respect, you need to give respect. So, by being respectful, you are setting the scene for nothing but kind treatment in return.
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Strive for equal effort
People always say, “relationships should be 50-50.” That’s wrong. They should be 100-100. BOTH people need to put in 100% effort every day to keep the relationship strong. It can’t be 100-20, 100-50, or even 100-99. It has to be equal. If it gets out of balance, you need to have a conversation about that so you can get back on track.
Relationships should not be “me vs. you.” It should be “us” as a team. You can’t constantly be only considering your own perspective about anything. You may or may not be right, but perception is reality. If your partner sees it differently, try to understand. Show him empathy, and then most likely he’ll show it to you in return.
Don’t try to change him
Women are notorious for trying to change their man. They think things like, “If I can get him to lose 30 pounds, then he’ll be more attractive.” Or “If I can just get him to stop playing video games, I’ll be happy.” Or “Once we get married, he’ll change for the better.” Take this important piece of advice – if you don’t like how his is RIGHT NOW, without any changes, then you shouldn’t be with him. Period. Because you can’t really change him anyway. It just won’t work.
Everyone wants to be appreciated by their partner, so what makes you think your man is any different? Even if he does little things like put dishes in the dishwasher…thank him for it. Thank him for everything and anything he does for you, and then it’ll be more likely that he’ll want to keep doing that in the future to keep you happy. And don’t forget that he should appreciate you too.
Never tolerate any kind of abuse
Abuse isn’t just about having him hit you or beat you up. Abuse comes in all forms – mental and emotional too. While physical injuries can heal, the mental and emotional wounds are much more difficult to heal. So, don’t tolerate it if he tries to belittle you, degrade you, or gaslight you. That’s a total deal-breaker.
Don’t be jealous or possessive
It’s understandable that we don’t want to share our man. However, there is a fine line between wanting to keep him for yourself and being overly jealous and possessive. These qualities are smothering and usually pushes men way. Instead, try to be more secure with yourself, so you don’t worry about losing him. And even if you do, you need to know that you’ll be okay anyway.
Now you have it – everything you need to know to have a quality relationship. The list might seem daunting, but it’s really not. It just takes practice. However, you will need to constantly keep these in mind. But once you do, you’ll find yourself living happily ever after.