Reasons Why Women Are Hesitant To Date You

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So, if you have been seeing a woman who you really like and she says she is hesitant about dating you, your looks are bound to be their last inducement. 

Here’s why a lot of women might be uncertain about saying YES to you.

1. You Are Probably Obsessed With Her Looks

Women hardly require a man to tell us how gorgeous we appear to be. Sure, we all love enough compliments but we already know what we are worth. So, if you believe in policing women around their looks, you’ve got to find another. 

If we don’t need a man to compliment us, we sure won’t appreciate a man telling us what to do about our dark circles or how much makeup to wear during the day. In simple words, you could be a potential turn-off. 

Also, if you are someone who can’t have enough of our looks and see nothing past them, we’d rather have another. Much like any other man, even women are more than just our hot-ass bodies or a pretty face. We’ll appreciate a man who can value that and embrace us beyond our physical appearances. 

2. A Poor Listener Is Always A NO

Much like any other man who’d hesitate to go around with a woman who thinks the world revolves around her, women feel the same way about you. Although we would love to hear you talk about yourself, how you’ve been through the day, and everything beyond that, we’d also like to be heard. 

We appreciate men who can listen. A man who can understand us and empathize with our emotions. A man who can just be there without necessarily saying anything. We love it. 

So, if you haven’t been doing enough listening, that could be one red flag. Ask her more questions. Get to know her better. Pay attention to your date. By the way, this is also a prospective way of displaying respect.

3. You Identify As A Chauvinist

We already get sufficient doses of everyday sexism from the world around us; we don’t require more contributions. So, if you’re someone who loves to bang on about how women shouldn’t wear short skirts or how they should dress their thighs, we don’t want you. 

No guy hopes to date a woman who tells them which girlfriends to block or leave. Then, why are we expected to date a man who has no regard for our personal choices? 

Understand that women are not your entities. We are human, much like you, and we’d appreciate being treated the same way. Respect us for who we truly are and for the choices we make. If you don’t want to be talked into doing things our way, we expect the same. 

4. We’d Rather Steer Clear Of Alcoholics

Before you start contemplating, hold that thought. By alcoholics, we mean to target anyone who overdoses on alcohol time and again. This in no way implies that women have a thing against men who enjoy drinks. But if you felt slightly picked out, it might be a fair time for you to think about the effects of alcoholism. 

Alcoholism can render severe life implications for people. It can also escalate the chances of aggression resulting in more conflicts and violence. And the last thing we want is to date a man who we’d have to cry about all day. 

So, if you love to drink because you think you look cool with the capacity to clear off a whole glass of scotch neat all by yourself, we’d like to burst your bubble. It is wise to drink in moderation and care for yourself before you want to care for another woman. It could say a lot about you, we promise. 

5. You’re Not Open About Your Emotions

We want to date men, not walls. So, please stop acting all unfazed and expressionless. Display your emotions. 

Let us know how you feel. We appreciate men who can be vulnerable to us without straddling the fence. It is a privilege to empathize with your feelings and be there for you when you need us. 

So, tell us when you feel bothered. Talk it out. Do that enough, and we promise; you’ll have us glued to your side.

6. You Cross Your Line Even After Persistent Communication

Do you often get touchy and sense a certain discomfort in her expression? Are you crossing your physical boundaries frequently, even after being confronted? 

This could be a serious concern for not just one but almost every woman. It also is the easiest way out to creep any woman under the sun, even before she has started to feel a thing or two for you. 

It is cardinal to make sure she is always within her zone of comfort. Please make sure that you are as respectful and aware of it as possible. 

The Bottom Line

It’s okay if things haven’t worked out as you desired. That’s normal, especially if you haven’t had someone to open up to you about these factors. With this guide, we hope you can change that for yourself and find a potential date that not only says YES but enjoys the idea of being with you every day.